Emotional Courage and Firewalking
Standing in front of a Firewalk is a guaranteed way to test, and strengthen, your Emotional Courage. But what is Emotional Courage? Put simply, Emotional Courage is the willingness to feel. A willingness to feel the good, the bad, and everything in-between.
We need Emotional Courage to get outside our Comfort Zone. Our Emotional Courage is the power behind whether we will or won’t do something. It’s the driving force that gets us to our goals.
The What If’s
At Firewalks we often talk about “the things that hold us back”. Think about a time when you know you need to speak to a colleague, family member, or friend about something that will potentially have some level of conflict. Most of us put this conversation off, for a while anyway.
We know what we want to say, and we probably know how to say it. Indeed, we often rehearse the conversation over and over in our heads. Sometimes, we have had the opportunity to start that conversation, but we let the chance slide. Instead, we assure ourselves that it’s not the right time or, I’ll do it tomorrow. Sound familiar?
So why do we not follow through?
It’s the what if. What if there is a huge argument? What if they get angry and pissed off? Or, what if I get angry and pissed off? What if I am wrong? What if I upset the other person? These what if’s can stop us from doing what needs to be done.
Out of interest, can you think back to a scenario like this in your life? Can you remember how you were feeling when you finally picked up the courage to have that difficult conversation? And can you remember the outcome? Chances are the outcome was nothing like you imagined? And in most cases, it was more positive than any of the outcomes that were playing out in your head.
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You know the conversation needs to be had. Prolonging the conversation only extends how long you suffer through the anxiety and worry. And for what? If you know you are going to have the conversation, why put it off? You already know that there are potential negative outcomes; and if you think about it, there are even more positive outcomes. Why put it off?
It takes Emotional Courage, to step into this arena and do what must be done. To feel what will be felt, regardless of whether it might be a good feeling or a bad feeling. So what if it ends up being a bad feeling. Life is full of ups and downs, bumps and bangs, highs and lows. There is no point trying to hide from any of them. By hiding from them you are doing yourself a disservice – you aren’t experiencing life fully. And remember, feelings always pass.
Emotional Courage and Firewalking
For most people, standing in front of a Fire is a fantastic way to strengthen your Emotional Courage. Or at the very least, to pay attention to it.
Most people turn up to a Firewalk with the goal of walking across the Fire. But as the Fire blazes and it gets closer to Firewalking time, different feelings and emotions will start to come up. Some people can experience these feelings and emotions in the days and weeks before their Firewalk. And for some, the feelings will be too much for them to deal with and they will pull out of the Firewalk without showing up.
For those that do turn-up, they get the chance to call upon their Emotional Courage to get them across the Fire. As Susan Jeffers aptly said, it’s a chance to feel the fear and do it anyway. It’s ok to feel afraid just as it is ok to feel excited.
Your Emotional Courage grows when you take risks while feeling your emotions. A prime reason why Firewalking should not be done under the influence of alcohol or drugs. Don’t back down when you feel scared. Don’t mask or cloud your feelings and emotions. Embrace them. Do this and you will strengthen your Emotional Courage.
When you’re scared, stand tall, be bold, and step-in. You will feel much more powerful for it, you will be a force to reckon with. Your goals will become easier to achieve because you won’t back down from the things that get in your way.